Mate crime

 Mate crime is a form of hate crime and can be a very serious form of abuse. 

The term mate crime describes when a vulnerable person is befriended with the intention of them being abused or exploited. 

A vulnerable person can be someone: 

  • with learning disabilities
  • mental health or substance misuse issues
  • elderly or older

The abuse or exploitation can be: 

  • financial
  • physical
  • emotional
  • sexual or otherwise. 

In some cases, victims of mate crime have been significantly harmed or even killed. 

Those that commit such abuse or theft are often referred to as ‘fake friends’. 

There are different forms of mate crime, which can include: 

  • theft/financial abuse – the abuser might demand or ask to be lent money and then not pay it back or the abuser might take their benefits from them
  • cuckooing – the abuser might take over the person’s home and visit or stay there, despite the person not wanting them to
  • physical assault/abuse – the abuser might hurt or injure the adult which may ultimately result in death
  • harassment or emotional abuse – the abuser might manipulate, mislead and make the person feel worthless
    • this includes name calling and grooming the person for criminal activities 
  • sexual assault/abuse – the abuser might harm or take advantage of the person sexually. 

Often, these different types of abuse do not happen in isolation – abusers may subject people to multiple forms of abuse at the same time. 

What it can look like

Mate crimes are likely to happen in private, often in the person's own home. 

It can also happen via social media, where someone is financially or sexually exploited after being befriended online. 

Frequently the person at the centre of the abuse will consider the person using harmful behaviour to be a friend and not recognise that they are being abused and exploited. 

Who may be vulnerable

Certain factors may make a person more susceptible to mate crime. This includes: 

  • having limited close family or friends 
  • a physical or learning disability 
  • mental health issues 
  • misusing drugs and/or alcohol 
  • isolation from the community 
  • having low self esteem 

Identifying mate crime

Indicators of mate crime can be similar to other forms of abuse. 

Potential signs include: 

  • bills not being paid, a sudden lack of money, losing possessions, suddenly changing their will
  • may have more money than usual, or giving expensive gifts
  • changes in routine, behaviour, appearance, finances or household (new people visiting or staying over, lots of new ‘friends’, lots more noise or rubbish than normal)
  • cutting themselves off from established networks of friends/family and support, missing weekly activities
  • secretive internet or mobile phone use
  • unexplained injuries
  • losing or gaining weight
  • lack of self-care
  • showing signs of mental health problems
  • a friend who does not respect, bullies or undermines the person. 

If you think you or someone you know might be a victim of mate crime, please report it